Listen to the Latest Podcast Episode
Episode 13: 5 Free Career Tools That Help You Find a Job Faster with Lauren McGoodwin
0:00
43:34

Using SHAIM to Realize Your Hidden Potential in 5 Steps

What makes you special? We've spoken a lot about creating pitches, but are you including what's completely unique about you and your skills? Here's how to unwrap your hidden potential—and put it to work.

We're not here to stress you out. But we are here to SHAIM you. 
As we navigate through months of quarantine and head into the spring, we have probably done a ton of soul-searching, Instagram scrolling, Netflix-watching, and surviving. As the days begin to blend together, as the lines between work and home blur more and more, and as many women readjust their lives to simply make it through the day at hand, it can be tough (or impossible) to take time to measure where your potential might be versus where you are. 
We often speak about upskilling at work, training ourselves to open up to difficult conversations, honing our skills, and more tactical career advice. But, underneath your career, your job title, and your future aspirations is where who you are lives. 
So, we scoured some pretty woo-woo sites, we read up on Quora (which was so helpful) and we came up with this 5-step method to check in with yourself, where you are, and whether your potential checkpoints have moved. 
A note before reading: There's a lot of push and pull, especially mid-quarantine, about whether we're "making the most of it." Some of us are simply trying to survive—and that's more than enough. If you relate to that, maybe dive into some self-care items instead.
Bookmark this for a later point. Take care of you

How to Audit Your Untapped or Unrealized Potential 

Let's bring it back to grade school.
Do you remember learning to spell or read? Once you mastered these skills, your world opened up. All of a sudden, when your parents spelled out "N-A-P" or "V-E-G-G-I-E-S" you knew the kind of stunts they were trying to pull. 
When you learn vast new skills, your world opens up. That's what this potential method is about. It's about checking in with yourself to see where you are. From there, you can use it to add on to your life, to broaden your horizons, and (since we are, after all, a career site) advance your career. 
Here is our 5-step SHAIM method to tap into your potential. What does SHAIM stand for? 
  • Skills (Past, Present + Future) 
  • Happiness
  • Asking Questions
  • Identifying Fear Obstacles
  • Making Plans 

S: Make a List of Your Best Skills + A List of Feats You’d Like to Achieve

First things first: let's see where your skills currently lie. For your first list, choose five things that you're really good at. It can be anything, seriously. If you're good at bird-calling, list that—it's relevant because it's part of who you are.
If it's a struggle to name five things, we still want you to list five things (sorry, not sorry). Especially if you err on the side of modesty like many women, it can feel near-impossible to list more than two. 
Is it time to phone a friend? If you're struggling to list more skills and talents, phone a friend. It can be your best friend, your mom, or even a significant other. Ask them what they think you're good at. You'll probably be surprised (and flattered) at the answers. And now? Your list is filled out. Here's what it might look like:
  • I am a great speller
  • I am a strong swimmer 
  • I am a curious person 
  • I am an excellent listener 
  • I think before I act 
Next, yes, it's another list! We love lists. Create a list of skills you'd like to learn or feats you'd like to achieve. This list can be as long (or short) as you want it to be. However, once you've created the list, prioritize the three "biggest feats" you'd want to go after. It could look something like this:
  • Get promoted to a management role
  • Learn how to build my own website from scratch
  • Wallpaper the bathroom by myself
  • Run a half marathon 
They're all pretty different and they can feed into different areas of your life. If your focus is career-based, all three might have to do with your career. If your focus is on your physical health, all three goals might be in implementing healthy habits. 

H: Make a List of Things That Make You Happy 

In researching potential, we arrived at the conclusion that your best potential is going to reside at the cross-section of expertise and happiness. So, make a list of things that make you happy. It might look something like this:
  • Reading + journaling
  • Listening to scientific podcasts
  • Giving + receiving positive feedback at work
  • Spending time with my best friend
  • Baking new things 
  • Exercising
Unlike the prior lists, make this one as long as humanly possible. Also, be truthful. If taking an entire Sunday to watch Golden Girls reruns in your bed makes you happy, that's it. Things that make you happy also reduce your stress, inspire creativity, and generally have nice effects on your entire being. We're pretty sure science will back us up on this one. Among many other things, happiness has been shown to reduce the risk of heart disease by up to 22 percent
Once you've completed step two, you have a Happy List to turn to whenever life gets...challenging. The things that make you happy are crucial in your own self-care. Refer to this list often. 

A: Ask Questions About These Skills, Goals, and Happiness Items.

So, now you have three lists. You have your best skills, skills + feats you'd like to achieve, and your happiness items. 
Before we dive into this step, we want to talk more about potential. Bringing it back again to school, you may or may not have received a report card that said, "Geena is great, but I fear she isn't living up to her potential." Then, your parents got mad at you, you got mad at your teacher, and nobody learned anything. 
Discovering your true potential is—quite frankly—nobody's business but your own. That doesn't mean that an outsider can't recognize your unique strengths and opportunities for your growth. It just means that it's really up to you to put a serious thinking cap on. Enter creativity. 
Get creative. So, you have your three lists. Now, merge them. You can make a Venn Diagram in order to see where they intersect or you can take the television detective route and create a Crazy Wall. Whichever method works for you, do your best to connect your existing skills, your desired skills, and your happiness items. Your big reveal might come when you creatively fuse the three. Let's take an example from above. 
  • Something I'm good at: I am an excellent listener 
  • Something I want to learn or achieve: I want to get promoted to a management role 
  • Something that makes me happy: Giving + receiving positive feedback at work 
We chose a career-driven option here, but you might be surprised how your three lists mesh pretty effortlessly. So, now we have a goal, a happiness item, and a pre-existing skill set that is pretty freaking important when it comes to being a leader. So, you're ready to go out and get it, right? One more thing. 

I: Identify Fear-Based Obstacles 

 Ah, yes! Fear is the ultimate stop-you-in-your-tracks source of frustration. 
When you pause for fear, other nuisances pop up and get to chattering. Your negative self-speak and impostor syndrome thrive in fear. So, as you're sifting through your potential items, make a space for fear. Addressing it head-on allows you to explore ways to jump over it. 
Let's go back to our main example. With our skills, our goal, and our happiness item, we have basically found a pretty solid track to a leadership role. What's stopping you now? Well, probably a million negative thoughts. Isn't it funny how it can be so difficult to make a list of things we're good at, but when it comes to fear-based thoughts, they just create themselves?
Here are some possible fear-based thoughts in regards to going after our leadership potential—and how you might nip it in the bud right away. 
  • There's no position at my current company. That doesn't mean there won't be in the future. Maybe I should have a discussion with my manager to explore any future options.  
  • I don't really have the experience. Ok, I probably do. I should conduct an audit of successful projects, clients I've managed, and other indicators of pre-management experience. 
  • My boss will be offended if I express interest. Actually, my boss will probably be flattered? If I frame a future goal with my boss, she will likely be receptive to my ambition. I can also use this opportunity to discuss her best management lessons and advice. 

M: Make a Plan 

There's no hard and fast rule about when you need to achieve a goal. To be completely honest, some will take a week, some will take months, and others might be lifelong learning opportunities. However, we think it's important to check in with yourself. At the minimum, using the SHAIM method is a great way to reconnect with your skills, your passions, and your ambition. 
So, make a plan. Have difficult conversations with yourself—then bring them to others. After you make your plan, make another plan to check in with yourself. Your dreams, goals, and aspirations are constantly changing. Be cognizant of the what, why, and how. Use the SHAIM method to conduct personal check-ins.  
We are always learning and growing. With growth comes more untapped potential. 
Get after it! 

Tags:

You May Also Like

What's-Managing-Up-(+-How-to-Do-It) Image
Career Success
What's Managing Up (+ How to Do It)

Managing up is a work term that is gaining momentum in the modern workplace. Basically, it's managing your manager to make their management job easier. Sound confusing? Let's dive into managing up.

12-Creative-Thinking-Skills-to-Show-Off-at-Work Image
Career Success
12 Creative Thinking Skills to Show Off at Work

What is creative thinking, and how can you apply crucial creative thinking skills at work? How can you show creative thinking skills in your resume or cover letter? We're covering it all in this article about creative thinking skills.

6-Things-I-Learned-From-My-First-Year-as-a-Mom- Image
Career Success
6 Things I Learned From My First Year as a Mom

We know moms can do it all, but should they? This is what I learned in my first year as a mom, and what I'm continuing to learn.

How-to-Introduce-Yourself-Professionally- Image
Career Success
How to Introduce Yourself Professionally

Looking to make a great first impression at your new job? Here's our in-depth how-to on how to introduce yourself professionally.

How-to-Use-Visualization-to-Get-What-You-Want Image
Career Success
How to Use Visualization to Get What You Want

Is visualization too woo-woo for you, or does it work? It's all about your mindset. Let's dive into visualization techniques for anyone and everyone.

How-to-Make-a-Good-First-Impression:-20-Expert-Tips- Image
Career Success
How to Make a Good First Impression: 20 Expert Tips

Ensure that you make a good first impression in every setting. Whether you're in an interview or meeting new clients, here's how to make a good first impression every time.

How-to-Tell-Your-Compelling-Career-Story Image
Career Success
How to Tell Your Compelling Career Story

Here's how to disseminate your personal career story—and how to share it with hiring managers, future connections, and future clients.

Our-Guide-to-Setting-Personal-KPIs-for-Success Image
Career Success
Our Guide to Setting Personal KPIs for Success

KPIs, they're not just for work projects anymore. Learn how to set—and achieve—personal KPIs at work, at home, and in your relationships.

Good-Books-Roundup—Our-Favorite-Books-Right-Now- Image
Career Success
Good Books Roundup—Our Favorite Books Right Now

Let's escape to our favorite place—the inside of a book. Here are the books we have been using to escape this decade so far.