We Asked Our Moms to Answer the 10 Scariest Career Questions
"If you hate your job you should begin to research other options. Life is short, and it is important to be happy while you are living it."
- Kathy, Meghan's Mom
"Do you really hate it, as in "I get a migraine just pulling into my parking space" hate it? If so, update your resume and start mining every source you have to find a new job. If it's temporary hate or a series of difficulties, arrange a meeting with your immediate supervisor to discuss the problems. Face conflict. It's hard but it makes facing bigger conflicts soooo much easier."
- Holly, Kit's Mom
"Isolation of the problem is key. If you hate your job, it's easy to be absorbed in the hatred and forget to determine what really is the reason for why you're unhappy. Take some time to reflect and think about what aspects don't appeal to you. Is it something you can try to resolve if you speak with the right people? Now if the issue isn't about an aspect of your job but about the job/industry as a whole, it's time to re-evaluate your interests and figure out what will give you satisfaction. But again, isolate the problem first before getting caught up in emotions."
- Uma, Sruthi's Mom
"If you're confused about why you got fired, don't let it slide. Ask for feedback! Yes, it can feel awkward or uncomfortable, but have a conversation with your manager to understand what really happened. Also, realize that not all firing decisions are about something you did wrong, but could involve layoffs for cost-cutting purposes or some other external reasons. While you might be told that, still try to set up a time to meet with your manager and debrief your work / experience at the company. In situations like this where the decision wasn't about something you did, it's important to leave on good terms and with the expectation that you can ask your manager for a reference or referral in the future."
"If you aren't caught too off guard, make sure you work out any severance or terms around your termination that will help you qualify for unemployment. If it's a "reduction in force," you qualify for unemployment. Even if you are tres upset, try to work out these economic support details before they show you the door. You'll be glad you did. Then go cry and day drink with a friend or SO if possible. Grieve a few days. Then get busy and find a job."
"Thinking you have one. Think in terms of a job that's fun to do and don't lose your soul planning some kind of climb to the mythical top."
"I would never walk off a job without another form of work figured out. Though I did have an FU fund the one and only time I did that, which helped a lot. I would try to think through my unhappiness and find a way to work through it."
"Take a job selling men's suits. It's a long story."
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Ask your mom one of these questions and tell us what she says in the comments!